Social Media Trolling & Bullying - How I Feel, How I React and My Advice. A Personal Account.

Hi guys, 

I am back again with another 'life' post. I chose this topic because it's about a topic that will always be current and will always be happening behind closed doors.

Lets face it we all know a 'bully' - you know the type, mouthy, they think they are superior to everyone else, they like to bring others down to their level and they totally have little man syndrome. Deep down we all know that actually they are insecure, they don't like themselves, basically bitter no hopers. 

There are plenty of those bad boys around theses days but unfortunately, instead of them being vile to your face they hide behind the safety of their phone or computer screen. Billy Big Balls indeed. Since the major rise in people using social media to 'express' themselves - outlets such as Instagram, Twitter and Facebook have become a breeding ground for 'trolling'. If you are not familiar with the term - it's basically being a big fat bully on social media. Nothing special. They don't deserve a title. 

Unfortunately social media hasn't come without its pitfalls. Bullying, trolling, harassing and stalking have become a new 'trend' for those people who are fuled by jealousy and hatred, those feelings that they project onto innocent people. 

At some point in our lives we have fallen victim to a nasty piece of work who are sat at home, festering in their own self-loafing, writing low-grade insults. If you are a strong person then it's something you can potentially handle but not everybody out there can handle this type of outlandish behaviour. For those types of people social media is a great way to be someone else, other than themselves,to stalk and harass others under fake ass accounts and hide behind aliases. I mean come on guys, do you seriously have nothing else to do with your sad little lives?!! It really is tragic. 

I do have a suggestion to those little trolls though... How about get off your fat, lazy ass and go get a job instead of scrounging off other people, people like myself PAYING for you to be sat at home whilst you are spending your days tied to your phone or computer trying to bring others down!! With as much time on your hands that you have stalking others you've got to be house bound to be attached to your phone that much. 

How I see it personally, if you have nothing nice to say about someone then say nothing at all because it really isn't welcomed. 

I am talking from personal experience about this topic because it's happened to me for what seems like forever. I am a strong person and toxic people don't get to me. My stalker is obsessed with me, all because her ex (who performed 3 accounts of rape on me) left her. It doesn't seem to sink into her deluded mind that he RAPED me. I never asked for anything that happened to me, I was sucked into his bubble, drawn in and abused. That, I will remember for the rest of my life because it happened to me. I was sucked in by him and allowed this abuse until I woke up and walked away. This has now given her, what she thinks is the right to troll me, harass me and stalk me. Nono, NO NO. 

I am a strong person (luckily) and I stand up for myself and won't take shit from anybody, especially 2 bit local bikes who hide behind fake accounts on social media. Not everybody is thick skinned though - it can really affect them to the point of suicide. Bullies and trolls can actually reduce people to self harm or even worse. It can affect people's mental state and well-being. Do they ever think about that? If you are one of Earths scum reading this, do you? Your actions always have consequences, does that even cross your mind?! 

The amount of hate I see across social media is disgusting. If you don't like what you see or what people are posting, I suggest you keep your extremely large nose out of someone else's business that doesn't concern you and mosey on by, your negativity doesn't belong in a happy place. 

Speaking of happy, do you really think bullies and trolls are happy?! Happy with themselves, their lives, who they are and what they do? Nope, me neither. They project their insecurities, deep seated self loathing, jealousy, bitterness and hate for themselves on to those who are happy, secure, content and living their lives. It all boils down to the fact that you possess something that they don't and will never have.

 If you are being stalked like I am by fake accounts, having posts put up directly or indirectly about you, getting inbox messages, nasty comments and just general bullshit, remember the above because that's all it's about. It's nothing to do with you, so NEVER think that, it's their problem not yours. You keep on being amazing. 

I cannot even count the amount of times I have had inbox messages, fake accounts watching my social media, indirect and direct posts, comments and whatever else posted. I used to retaliate because I knew that person was watching, I wanted them to know I know and then it got to the point where I stopped caring and that was a while ago now. Now I have unblocked every person I have blocked because I want them to see my things, I want them to see how genuinely happy and amazing I actually am. They want to keep on stalking, be my guest. I will make it worth their while. Doing that made me feel freakin amazing. There is nothing more beautiful when toxic people are out of your life - it's like the trash took itself out. 

If you let others get to you, they have won. My stalker doesn't know me, she doesn't want to know me, especially when I turn into The Hulk. Ha. 

It's like when she called me 'anorexic' - stick and stones, I am sorry I am naturally slim, have good genes, look after myself and have self control. If I wanted to be like her I could of easily retaliated and said " well you're constantly eating your feelings, look like what you god damn eat, you wonder why you look the way you do, you've got nothing on me, sit the f*ck down bitch. - Do you know why I don't say things like that to their face or through trolling, because they all ready know and that's why they try to make you feel bad about yourself because they don't like who they are. It's sad really because there is no reason on this planet to be nasty to others. Fix yourself before trying to break others. 

From personal experience, I've dealt with all of this first hand. The stalking, the harassment, the hate. I just laugh, I feel nothing but pity for these trolls because they don't affect my life but clearly I've affected theirs. That I find hilarious and if you are suffering, your should too find it funny. Let it go over your head. 

If you think about it guys, it's all sticks and stones - they never have the balls to say that shit to your face, why? They are cowards, you're not, you're strong, independent and a nicer person than they will ever be. They are stuck with their personalities. That right there proves that you will always be better than them. If they can take the time to set up a hella lot of fake ass accounts just to stalk someone and post on your content or indirectly post about you then that makes them sad. You are living in the real world. They obviously have a very sad, pathetic and miserable life. 

Another thing I would like to point out is name calling. It's so old school - calling someone a dog, a slut, a whore, ugly, you name it, you should brush that shit right off you because lets be honest - is that the best they've got. Meaningless words? That's all they are guys, just words, mirrored from what they think about themselves. It's all to provoke a reaction. Don't give them one. Ignore them. They WILL go away eventually. 

My little troll literally kept mimicking me, copying me and so much more - I should be flattered - they care enough to try and be me. Let them, the difference is they can't be you. You will ALWAYS be someone they can never be - a good person. 

Comments about your appearance. So what if you don't have straight, white teeth or have an over bite, bushy eyebrows or are, what they class as over/under weight. All these things, you can change if you feel strongly about it, for them, their evil and disgusting personality can't be fixed. It's in their genetics. 

If you are an honest, nice and truthful person they will never have shit on you and it will come back to you 10 fold. Trolls and bullies take stupidity to another level, their hate drives them but will never prevail. If you are suffering through the hands of bullies don't feel sad, depressed, suicidal or beaten - that's what they want. Instead, stand up to them by showing that that their words mean NOTHING to you because they don't. Speak out like I am, it's so liberating. 

They have no power or control, just words typed by a skanky little keyboard warrior. Karma will get them, it might not be straight away but it will happen and when you get everything coming to you that's good, remember that they will pay for the negativity they put into the universe. Just sit back and watch the show because it will be a good one. 

Guys, you can beat the social media trolls and the real life bullies - they live in cuckoo land, hell no, they can stay there where they belong. 

Please feel free to comment and share if you feel it can help others or you want to chat. 

If you want to read my personal story about what happened to me then you can do so by clicking here.  

Until next time... 

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"You are far too skinny...You need to eat more!"

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Okay, so this is going under the 'life' section of my blog as this is a topic that I have a strong opinion on and bugs the hell out of me. A somewhat controversial subject I agree, but also one that needs addressing.

Social media platforms are a powerful tool, one of which can be used in a negative way and not for the greater good. And recently I have been seeing a lot of posts on Facebook similar to the image I have posted in this blog. I cannot stand to see them plastered all over my wall and I end up having to comment on that said post because it infuriates me so much. I for one am an open minded person, I understand people have their own opinions on certain topics and it's fine for people to have their beliefs. But I am sorry when it comes to people's weight and shape who is anyone to judge?! The post I saw today pop up on my feed read something like "Skinny is gross" and I ended up posting a very long comment which ended up getting quite a few 'likes' and I am pretty much going to say it on this post. 

I am 5ft 6 and a bit and I weigh around 8.5 stone, which I consider a good weight for my height, others however decide that this isn't the case. Now I have ALWAYS been naturally slim and so are my family and when I was at school and even college people would question me about my weight. They would actually come up to me and ask...

"Are you anorexic?"

I would literally stand there in shock and would try to contemplate an answer that wouldn't be as offensive as the question I was just asked. The answer to that is NO. No I am not anorexic, I am just a bony person where my hips naturally stick out, I have a defined collar bone and I have tiny little wrists. I have always had a small frame and I am not massively tall and I developed late in life. I wasn't like all the other girls in primary school/high school who had boobs and a bum. I was straight up and down and had to stuff my bra (come on, we have all done it at some point in life). It wasn't until I was like 16 I started to gain a womanly shape and even now, I haven't got the biggest boobs on the planet. I am still small. It just worked out that I have pretty good genes and a fast metabolism. I don't starve myself, I eat what I want, when I want and my diet mainly consists of junk. I am not the healthiest of people, granted, actually I am pretty unfit. Ha ha. I think I would actually die if I had to run a mile somewhere. So not cool. 

Last year I decided that I wanted to tone up...Yes tone up, not lose weight,just get in shape. I started to do exercise routines in my room, I have never been to the gym. It's never appealed to me and I am quite lazy and get bored easily and I wasn't taking it all too seriously. Anyway I changed my Facebook cover photo to a picture I took after exercising as I was proud of my efforts and jeez it caused a bloody outbreak in insensitive comments. I think I was a little naive to think this wouldn't materialise. People I thought were my friends were saying some really offensive things. I had comments like this.

"You are so skinny, you need to eat more."

"That picture is promoting anorexia, I cannot let my daughter be subjected to this. I am deleting you." 

"That's wrong."

I was actually flabbergasted that these things were being written. I promptly took the image down and it actually upset me. Anyone that knows me, knows I am not god damn anorexic and it is really shocking that people are so forthright in coming out with these words without thinking about the damage it can cause. Being called 'skinny' is just as offensive as calling someone 'fat' yet it isn't as frowned upon as the latter. 

Why? 

If I had turned around to someone and said " you are too fat, you need to eat less" I would of been condemned as a bully, rude and offensive. Well isn't that what these people are doing by saying things like this to 'slim' people, me? 

No one is perfect in this world and it would be pretty boring if we were, and who are we to define what is beautiful or not. We are what we are. FACT. I am pretty thick skinned but those comments did really get to me and people need to stop and think about the effects it can have on someone's self esteem. It has now become the 'norm' to put each other down and I for one am a happy person.

 Come on people lets pipe down with the negative!!

 I sometimes wake up and say to my mum "woah, I have put some weight on my thighs" or "gosh you can really see my cellulite" and compare myself to people in magazines. This is what social media platforms, the media and ourselves have done. Made us insecure, making us conform to a society that is unrealistic. There is no denying it, we all have our flaws and that's what makes us unique, not 'wrong' or 'gross'. 

I will not apologise for the way I look, the things I eat and how I chose to live my life, and neither should you. These posts on the internet are what is wrong with this world and it can actually encourage anorexia or even obesity without you even realising it. Maybe it is to get a reaction? 

What do you think, do you agree? Have your say! :)

All in all there is a moral to this story and that is...

"If you can't say nothing nice, then don't say anything at all." 

In reality, this isn't the case. People will always voice their opinion on anything and everything. Which is fine, but please for the sake of others around you try to say something nice about someone and not pin point their weight. 

Live life to the full and don't let others bring you down. WE ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL!! 

 ♥